I appreciate the direction you're going in here, Chuck. And I didn't comment on your last piece because this is your personal blog, your turf, your place to say how you feel about shit. It's not my place to come to your house to start a fight.

But I have to ask, when you say "I sincerely believe that in the 21st century, calling a man a misogynist is as offensive as calling a woman a whore" and later "And accusing someone of being complicit in misogyny just makes my blood boil," well, what do we call it, then, when someone (they don't have to be a man, as you pointed out in your previous post!) is shitty to, hates on, dismisses, or is otherwise discriminatory women?

If the term "misogynist" is out, are "racist" and "homophobe" out? Do they make your blood boil, too?

I appreciate that you acknowledge that people treat women differently than men (it's not just on the internet!). But when that happens, we have a couple options -- and by "we" I mean you, and me, and Violet. We can act like it doesn't happen, or ignore it and hope it stops.

Or we can call it out for what it is -- and the word I know it by is "misogyny." So what word should I be using to keep your blood at a comfortable temp? Because I'm going to keep on calling racism, homophobia, misogyny, and the overuse of mangos in salsa out when I see it, but I don't want you to go all teakettle on us.

Oh, and as a side note referring to your earlier post: Violet uses the "registered trademark" symbol next to her name, on the advice of her lawyers, after a porn actress attempted to, in short, adopt her persona. You can learn more about the suit here:

http://www.wired.com/threatlevel/2007/10/sex-journo-viol/

http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2006/10/i-am-teh-real-vb-i-am-all-the-violet-blue-youll-ever-need.html

As her SF Chronicle editor at the time, I can't overstate what a distressing problem it was to have this, for lack of a better term, brand confusion. It was no "I'm Not That Guy,"* I tell you what.

Violet won that suit, and Ada Mae Johnson had to stop calling herself "Violet Blue" while performing sex acts on camera for money. And, wow, you think Apple fans are loyal? You should try porn fans! They really had a lot to say to Violet about that suit, and "whore" was probably one of the nicer remarks.

I appreciate the edits you made regarding this that I saw when I read your post early this morning, but thought the additional data points might be helpful to you continue to ponder this sticky wicket.

*http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I'm_Not_That_Guy