You're the victim of my having recently read a long discussion elsewhere on the internet, that was exactly like every other discussion about religious belief & atheism that I've seen over the past 15 years or so. It just seems like people recognize that it's obnoxious for dogmatic religious people to be dismissive and insulting of people of different beliefs, but see no problem with its going the other way. We all need to appreciate that there's more to most people than what's visible on the surface.